It's an Inside Job

Rewriting Your Story: A Deep Dive into 'Slingshot' with Author Moustafa Hamwi

February 05, 2024 Season 5 Episode 6
Rewriting Your Story: A Deep Dive into 'Slingshot' with Author Moustafa Hamwi
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Rewriting Your Story: A Deep Dive into 'Slingshot' with Author Moustafa Hamwi
Feb 05, 2024 Season 5 Episode 6

In this episode, I'm thrilled to have the opportunity to interview Moustafa Hamwi, the insightful author behind "Slingshot." Our discussion centers on the compelling theme of the book: taking the reins of your destiny and employing practical tools to surmount life’s challenges.

During our conversation, Moustafa shares the concept of "Slingshot" as a metaphor. It represents using one's past struggles as a springboard to a more promising future. We delve into Moustafa's own life experiences, exploring the personal hurdles he faced and how the process of writing this book served as a therapeutic journey for him.

An essential part of our discussion focuses on the critical role of mindset in overcoming obstacles. We talk about the importance of healing from past traumas, the necessity of continuous personal growth, and how physical cues can play a significant role in ensuring enduring change.

Moustafa emphasizes the value of simplifying life, the profound impact our mindset has on our behavior, and shares effective strategies for letting go of emotional burdens. This includes the transformative process of rewriting one's own story. We also discuss the often difficult task of releasing emotional attachments, particularly when ego and long-held self-identities are involved.

To conclude, Moustafa champions the ideals of generosity, service, and maintaining a strong belief in oneself. Wrapping up the episode, I reflect on the powerful insights from "Slingshot," encouraging my listeners to apply these principles in their own lives to foster personal development and resilience.

Connect with Moustafa Hamwi:
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Moustafa Hamwi's Bio
Moustafa is a multi-bestselling author, international speaker, and mindset coach.
His background spans diverse disciplines — from executive coaching, hypnotherapy, yoga, and meditation to adventure sports and nature healing.

Moustafa’s unique lifestyle as an executive nomad has him traversing the globe, often spending months living out of a campervan, immersing himself in diverse cultures and forging a deep connection with nature.

His quest for self-discovery leads him to learning and meditation centres worldwide, exploring the intricacies of mind, body, and soul. His life journey and extensive research have culminated in unparalleled knowledge and insight. He's globally recognised as a foremost expert and thought leader in reigniting passion within organisations and teams.

#Mindset #Author #Slingshot #Healing #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalBaggage #PersonalDevelopment #Resilience  #OvercomingObstacles #EmotionalHealing  #LettingGo #SelfBelief  

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In this episode, I'm thrilled to have the opportunity to interview Moustafa Hamwi, the insightful author behind "Slingshot." Our discussion centers on the compelling theme of the book: taking the reins of your destiny and employing practical tools to surmount life’s challenges.

During our conversation, Moustafa shares the concept of "Slingshot" as a metaphor. It represents using one's past struggles as a springboard to a more promising future. We delve into Moustafa's own life experiences, exploring the personal hurdles he faced and how the process of writing this book served as a therapeutic journey for him.

An essential part of our discussion focuses on the critical role of mindset in overcoming obstacles. We talk about the importance of healing from past traumas, the necessity of continuous personal growth, and how physical cues can play a significant role in ensuring enduring change.

Moustafa emphasizes the value of simplifying life, the profound impact our mindset has on our behavior, and shares effective strategies for letting go of emotional burdens. This includes the transformative process of rewriting one's own story. We also discuss the often difficult task of releasing emotional attachments, particularly when ego and long-held self-identities are involved.

To conclude, Moustafa champions the ideals of generosity, service, and maintaining a strong belief in oneself. Wrapping up the episode, I reflect on the powerful insights from "Slingshot," encouraging my listeners to apply these principles in their own lives to foster personal development and resilience.

Connect with Moustafa Hamwi:
              Where it says Code or Receipt #, enter Jason Liem or Inside Job

Moustafa Hamwi's Bio
Moustafa is a multi-bestselling author, international speaker, and mindset coach.
His background spans diverse disciplines — from executive coaching, hypnotherapy, yoga, and meditation to adventure sports and nature healing.

Moustafa’s unique lifestyle as an executive nomad has him traversing the globe, often spending months living out of a campervan, immersing himself in diverse cultures and forging a deep connection with nature.

His quest for self-discovery leads him to learning and meditation centres worldwide, exploring the intricacies of mind, body, and soul. His life journey and extensive research have culminated in unparalleled knowledge and insight. He's globally recognised as a foremost expert and thought leader in reigniting passion within organisations and teams.

#Mindset #Author #Slingshot #Healing #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalBaggage #PersonalDevelopment #Resilience  #OvercomingObstacles #EmotionalHealing  #LettingGo #SelfBelief  

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Now, this podcast is dedicated to helping you to help yourself and others to become more mentally and emotionallyresilient so you can be better at bouncing back from life's inevitable setbacks.
Now, on It's an Inside Job, we decode the science and stories of resilience into practical advice, skills, and strategies thatyou can use to impact your life and those around you.
Now, with that said, let's slip into the stream.

[0:37] Music. 

Introduction to Mustafa Humwi and his book, Slingshot

[0:45] Hello folks, welcome back to It's an Inside Job.
I'm your host, Jason Lim. This week we are going to jump on that mental plane down to Melbourne, Australia, where weare going to meet a brilliant, fantastic, and a vivacious man, Mustafa Humwi.
Now Mustafa has just recently released his third book, Slingshot.
Now, it's centered around the concept of becoming a master of your destiny rather than a victim of your history.
Now, the book provides practical tools and exercises to help readers let go of emotional baggage, eliminate self-limitingbeliefs and move past life's dramas.
You know, this insightful book, it emphasizes learning from the past to rewrite one's story and mastering the mindset forsuccess. success.
The book targets those who feel stuck in their past and are looking for a way to release their negative emotional baggageand to focus on what matters to create a brighter future.
And I've never met anyone who has not had some sort of hang up in the past where they cling on to the past.
And maybe that's unconsciously, maybe it's consciously.
They just can't make peace with a past experience and it prevents them from moving forward.
It throws up roadblocks and and obstacles and pitfalls, so we can progress in that part of our lives.
And this book provides a methodology how to overcome those past sticky points.

[2:11] Just to let go, to uncling, and to move forward.
Well, enough from me. Let's slip into the stream and meet the author of Slingshot, Mustafa.

[2:19] Music. 

[2:32] Salutations, Mustafa. Welcome very much to the podcast.
It's an inside job. I really appreciate your generosity of time and that we could make this work considering the timedifference between Oslo and Melbourne.
Thank you, Jason, for having me. Really excited to be on the show.
I was wondering if we could kick off. Maybe you can introduce who you are and what you do.
Sure. My name is Mustafa, as you mentioned, and I'm an international bestselling author, author, speaker, and coach.
And my topic of specialty is around passion and using people's mindset to master their destiny.
And lately, you just released your latest book as of December 2023, literally weeks ago, called Slingshot.

Jason: Question about the term "Slingshot" for the book

[3:19] Perhaps, I'm curious, maybe why the term form Slingshot?

[3:25] Yeah, beautiful question. And it was a last minute naming process.
Funny, when I write books, people, I start with a name, but it's not usually the same name I end up publishing. The firstone is a project name.
But the analogy for this specific book, Slingshot, came from my own journey of going through a struggle of trying to findanswers for myself, going on my own personal growth journey, trying to find solutions.
And at the beginning, I was in the coaching space. So I go to coaches and all the coaches usually go is, okay, it's about go,go, go mentality.
Forget about, you know, anything else, forget emotions, feelings.
I mean, they acknowledge it a little bit, but it's about the go, go, you can push through anything.
But I couldn't deny what was happening in my life and all the challenges.
So I'd go and then something like something was pulling me back.
Like I'd push, push, push. And then it's not a glass ceiling.
I could break through a glass ceiling, but it was more of an actual, like an invisible rubber band that's pulling me back.
And I'm like, you know what, I can't deny this. I'm going to have to go digging into the past.

[4:29] Then I went into the healing space and the healing space is full of all of those kind of let's dig deeper and deeper.
And it's like peeling an onion or digging a hole. The deeper you dig, the deeper you go. And then you find another layerand then you find another layer.
And that was a never ending story because I feel more broken by the end of the whatever I'm doing and I come back formore.
And the analogy here was suddenly dawned on me that there's an inherent challenge in the the self-help industry, is thatit's focused on either or, it's very bipolar.

[5:00] And I started thinking, how about if I actually willingly take a step back to deal with some of my past issues that areimpacting my present, and then release my past so I can accelerate into the future with the second part of the book, whichis the mindset mastery, and that's the slingshot analogy.
It's about taking a step back, dealing with your past, but then letting go of it so you can accelerate into the future?
I had the privilege of reading parts of the book and, you know, we're not talking just sort of business setbacks.
We're talking some heavy setbacks such as, you know, you wrote about moving from Dubai to Melbourne.
I think it was pre-COVID. And then you lost your father due to COVID complications as such.
And then you had some idea, there were some troubles with your mom.
She went through several medical interventions or I think strokes or something.
I can't remember exactly what it was and then obviously as moving to Melbourne not knowing anyone then lockdownshits and as I read Melbourne was pretty hard hit when it came to lockdowns you know there was the the loneliness and theisolation and I guess everything else that most of us felt but this was kind of intense so these things you're talking aboutare not just sort of business setbacks as as important as those are and then things but these are these are.

[6:14] Heavy elements that would affect anybody's resilience, you know, and obviously, this, to some extent, it was a wakeup call.
And slingshot was, I guess your answer to that, maybe not answer, but it was your cathartic release towards all theheaviness that was in your life at that point.

Mustafa: Reflection on personal challenges and the inspiration for the book

[6:32] Yeah, thank you for bringing all of that. And yeah, you're on the point here.
The reality is a lot of the material that I used in slingshot were research over years years and years.
And a lot of them were part of my research for my very first book.
So Slingshot is my third book.
My very first book, Live Passionately, a lot of the tools that I came up with were related.
I started discovering when I'm helping people go through passion discovery processes, there was a bit of a blockagebecause there was one of two challenges.
They either couldn't move forward because there was a lot of mental blockage against certain passions. and I've had thoseexperiences and we'll talk, we can talk about that a bit later on the show.
And it's either stuck in the past or once they discover their passion, fear kicks in and other challenges kicks in and theycan't go.
So the pieces of healing the past and mastering the mindset were there.
And once I've had that, I thought, okay, I'm going to write this independent books about them. And then I fell intoimposter syndrome myself.
I'm like, well, who am I, You know, who am I to actually do this?
And what am I doing? One book was already a lot of a big thing for me to achieve.

[7:43] And then I moved into Melbourne out of a divorce. So I had an as divorces go, they're rarely ever nice.
So it was a rough year of separation into a divorce and looking for a fresh start.
I just get on a plane and arrived to Melbourne. And I landed here 20 March 2020. Okay.
So everybody remembers that beautiful month in the history of humanity, because this is when the pandemic reallybecame a pandemic everywhere.
Early Jan-Feb was still some countries. By March, it hit everywhere.
And two days later, I land in Melbourne and the prime minister was on TV announcing a full lockdown across the wholecountry.
And I ended up coming out of a divorce into a new country, locked down by myself, no friends, no family.
And because of the social distancing and all the lockdowns, I couldn't connect with anybody. everybody.
And Melbourne, yes, had one of the toughest lockdowns. I think in the first year alone, separate from second year, wewere locked down for over, out of 380 days, we were locked down for about 275 days or something.
So you can imagine only small patches of barely some time to go out.
So that was getting heavy on me.
And on top of that, my father catches COVID when he was in Dubai.

[8:51] By the time I got exemption to leave Australia, I arrived there, he was in a coma and and I haven't seen him. So Imiss seeing my dad for a few years.
You can imagine the guilt that comes from that.
Then I fly back to Australia.
And a few months later, my mom ends up getting a brain stroke.
And at that time, I couldn't fly out because of my visa restriction, or I'd lose my residency here.
So there's a lot of pressure coming on me. And I really hit rock bottom.
I think this was one of the toughest times of my life where I started doubting myself and everything I teach and everythingI'm doing.
I'm like, if I can't help myself, what am I good in helping other people?
And this voice in my head started going, practice what you preach, practice what you preach.
And then I remembered I've got this material that was the basis of Slingshot.
So I pulled all of those things, reworked them, refreshed them, and reorganized them in such a way where that was thatpenny drop for me of the self-help industry challenge and put all of those together into the actual sequence that becameSlingshot.
So that's the reality of when it was started to pull it together.
And yes, that helped me get out of it.
And also there's an important factor here that that is not a one-time thing.
There's a lot of people out there in the self-help industry try to promise, you know, everlasting transformation.
There's nothing called everlasting transformation.
It's just a process that I used once and I keep needing to use regularly for or maintenance.

[10:14] I'd like to get into the process, but what I'd like to ask a lot of authors in writing the book, because obviously youhave to take, you know, your past experience, your emotion, you know, unfortunately, the thing that went through yourdad, your mom, being isolated and all that we've spoken about.

Cathartic Process and Bringing Thoughts to Fruition

[10:32] And in the process, when I talk to authors, they have to translate, obviously, abstract thoughts and emotions intowords.
And it is a very cathartic process for a lot of them.
A lot of these things that have lain dormant for a while come to fruition.
They come to the forefront of the mind.
What did you learn about yourself, Mustafa, writing this book, Slingshot?
Yeah, beautiful question. And I want to add something here that will bring context to my answer.
On top of me being a multi-time bestselling author, I'm actually a publisher.
So I've actually established and founded a company called Passionpreneur Publishing.
To date of this interview, I've helped about 100, well, we helped about 130 plus authors from 32 nationalities write andpublish their books.
So, and I'm very process oriented. So I believe people think creativity and writing is generally creative process.
For me, nonfiction is not a creative process, actually an architectural process, which has a lot of engineering, has a lot ofsystems and processes.
Like you do with a painting. You need a frame for the painting, otherwise you're just scattered all over the place.
So the process of writing a book for me has two elements of it.
One element is definitely the cathartic element, which is you're just letting go and opening up.
However, what I've learned from my books and from publishing other people's books, and that's really my specialty, isbooks that are just there to inspire are not enough.

[11:58] Because in today's world with the multimedia, with podcasts, with things like that, today, this interview is probablygoing to inspire people.
And you've got this amazing show, you're having even more amazing guests than me regularly.
So you are inspiring people all the time. But our role as coaches and people who are in the thought leadership space is toinspire, inform and instruct.
So I like to also think aside from the inspiration, which is only my story, that is only one chapter.

[12:29] To is what I call a big picture chapter where I give a 30,000 foot view of a methodology or a concept.
And that process is not really cathartic catharsis at all, not for me, at least, because that is me thinking, if I'm in a roomwith somebody, I'm doing one to one coaching with them.
And that's where I tap into all my resources of coaching, speaking, therapy, healing, I've got all these modalities andthings that I've worked with.

[12:53] And I how can I use those tools without me being in front of that person if they're going to grab the book and gothrough it one by one by one.
So that's actually very mentally draining for me to do that process.
But it's very meditative because it forces me to really focus and put myself away from everything to produce that content.
So it does serve me from a healing space.

Unique Approach: Measurable Results and Systematic Methodology

[13:15] However, I'm not typically the person who believes writing is just about, you know, putting out everything frommy head onto paper, because that becomes too much people for digest and benefit from.
When it comes to your books, Slingshot, as you said, self-help books can be very black and white night and day.
What separates your book from other self-help books? Yeah, thank you.
I'll say my book was born from my own struggle also.
So there's multiple elements that make my books unique, at least from my perspective and my coaches and people thatwork with me.
Because of my own struggles of going on an unfortunate journey, and we all know this industry is full of a lot of peoplelike this, this is not to say it's all, but there's a decent chunk of people who are there that I call in my own term funnelmarketers.

[14:04] People who have mastered the game of just putting a lead magnet with a funnel with a funnel flow and they canupsell you cross sell you downsell you jv sell you and and unfortunately in that space there there's a saying i always sayand i know i'll i'll be hated for that but the only one that makes money in a gold rush is a shovel company andunfortunately there's a lot not everyone but there's a lot of in the people that are at the forefront who have mastered thesocial social media and digital game that are just shovel companies.
They're not offering real gold. The teaching game has shifted from being about teaching into being how can I gain moreof the other side of the game.
We need both in any business, but it should never shift away from the primary purpose, which is helping people.
I've personally struggled from that early on in my career. And before I got on the career, I was on my own search and itwas painful to spend time and money.
So the first primary purpose for me, anytime I'm producing and offering a workshop or a talk or a book is measurableresults.

[15:06] Can I give a clear, valuable, measurable result that I stand by?
I put my money where my mouth is.
I can guarantee the results based on a system and a process.
So the second thing is for me to be able to put that measurable result and say, okay, you're going to start here.
You're going to baseline yourself to, you're going to have a clear process, which you can run through systematicallywithout me even needing to be there.
And then by the end of it, you can measure again and see if you got that value and results. So then there's results andthere's measurable results.
A lot of them are immediate. So you'll feel the value yourself.
And there is the process orientation there. So I'm very structured and systematic. So it's not theory.
The challenge with theory books are not taking away any of the value they offer.

[15:52] However, we read them, we feel more intelligent, we feel elated, but no change happens on the ground.
The change happens in the theory in our head. And that's why I like to be very systematic and methodical in what I offer.
So I'd say anything I do, not only my books, my coaching, my workshops, my online programs, they all follow the sameapproach.
Now, I think that's very important. When you read a book, it's good to be informed, but it's also good to be able tooperationalize where it's pragmatic and practical.
And if there are measurable results, of course, that's an amazing thing, such as lifting weights or learning martial arts orlanguage you can see progress and so there's you have a number of concepts one is overcoming past limitations andmastery of the mindset perhaps we could start with maybe overcoming past limitations and maybe you can speak a littleto that and what do you mean.

Overcoming Past Limitations and Mastery of Mindset

[16:43] Beautiful so so the first step in the in the journey of of this process is actually uh healing your past.
And the second step in the journey is mastering your mindset.
So, and I do them in that sequence specifically because that was the way I've experienced this is you can try to go as far asyou want into the future.
If you've got that invisible elastic band, that's tying you to past trauma for the lack of a better word. I'm not a doctor.
I'm just, you know, medical terms, not a medical term, but it is a traumatizing experience.
If you've, if you have those and they're in your subconscious, you're never going to be able to accelerate into the future.
So we start by healing the past and then mindset mastery.
And the easiest premise I can give slowly and we can dive deeper.
First step I will give you in the healing your past.
All it is, it's about rewriting your story.

[17:37] So the first thing I get people to do, and I urge people who are listening to this, maybe pause the episode and, youknow, start responding to what I'm saying, is start by writing your story.
Start by asking yourself, what is my story?
Is my story, you know, I am like this because my parents were XYZ, my family, my community, my nationality, myEnglish, my whatever I'm living, my social conditioning, my money situation.
We all have those stories that we've lived all our life, thinking and believing that they have defined who we are.
And for a period, they might have been, but there's a point where we have to let go of that so we can accelerate into thefuture.
So the biggest part of the healing is rewriting a story. So we start with you write your story, then I run you through certainexercises.
And then by the end of it, you rewrite your own story without my interference.
I ask you the same question again, and you just go through it and go, hmm. hmm, actually now looking at it again, X, Y,Z, and you start changing things.
Once the ground is clear from that past holding, then we start working on mindset mastery, things that help peopleincrease their self-belief, increase their, you know, believe in the possibilities of the future, overcoming procrastination,seeing opportunities, becoming resourceful, and that's kind of the whole journey.

[19:00] So if I rewind, so you ask someone if something's got them stuck in the past and they're clinging on to that andthat's preventing them to move forward.
You are asking them, write down the narrative, write down the story you're telling yourself, understand the elements.
Because what I understand is when we do this, we actually understand the rules of the games that we have defined forourselves, consciously or unconsciously.
Because those rules back in the day, 10, 20, 30 years ago may have served us, but those rules now may be serving againstus. And what I understand what you're saying, Mustafa, is look at those rules.
Are those rules working for you presently? We don't have to go diving into the past and bring up all the noise maybe, butmaybe it's understanding those limitations that you've set up for yourself, redefining those, and then projecting that intothe future to overcome procrastination or some level of anxiety depending upon something or whatever's holding youback.
Is that what I understand you are communicating? Beautifully summarized.
Beautifully summarized. It's basically, it is exactly that. It's not about digging endlessly into the past. I'm not taking awaythe value of healing.

Compartmentalizing and focusing on relevant parts of the past

[20:04] I'm just compartmentalizing. Rather than shooting a beam light, I'm going laser.
So if we're going to look into the past, let's look into the parts of the past.
I'm not here to do full regressions and go back to every childhood trauma.
I'm asking question, if your challenge for why you're coming to me or reading the book or taking my course is somethingspecific, let's look at what's relevant.
Because think of it, it's like beads. seeds.
Once you grab the first one and take it out, the rest will start rolling away.
So all you got to do is not go digging and all, just go to the root, look into that element, and then let's resolve that and thenrewrite the story.
Because it's that one degree of difference from going here, you make one degree and you put time span into it, a hugedifference into the future.
So very well summarized.

[20:49] And so if we move on to, so once we've kind of got a hold on a narrative, once we redefine that narrative, then theidea, hopefully it becomes a new default way of thinking. It becomes a habitual way of thinking.
So how does someone from your expertise create this new default narrative?
You know, the old one will always be there. I mean, it's just, it's just a habit of thinking, but it can go dormant in the mindand sometimes it pops up. But then you realize, okay, that's the old narrative.
It's not me. It's just my brain kicking up something.
But how do you, Mustafa, get someone to create a more habitual way of thinking, this new healthy narrative that's servingthem and not serving against them?
So it becomes a habitual way of thinking, the default.
I love your questions. And the answer to that is the last chapter of the book.
Okay. Okay. And that last, because that's the same conversation that I, and that's why I said, I go through the same journeyas a user myself first.
And I go, okay, I've reached the end, my Superman now, what's, what's missing.
And the simple answer here is keep brushing your teeth.

[21:57] There is no anybody, anybody, even if it's me, if I ever look you in the eye, I mean, there are times when you docertain deep work, but the reality is if anybody ever looks you in the eye and go this is it and that's the one thing you'llonly ever need to do for the rest of your life warning sign that a shovel company they're not giving you real gold okay youneed to keep brushing your teeth you can go to the dentist and get a teeth whitening if you don't brush your teeth dailyguess what's gonna happen.

[22:27] It's going to build up over time and all of that is going to go away.
It's the same with everything.
Meditation, an important part and what I give in the book, I give a lot of bonus packs, stuff to give away.
And one of them is an actual meditation. And for me, one of the biggest transformations in my life has been dailymeditation, consistency with what you're doing.
But you need a bit of both. You need the deep work. If you need a root canal, you got to do a root canal.
If you need a whitening, you got to do a whitening. And you need daily maintenance and you need weekly maintenanceand you need monthly maintenance.
That's the books that you read, the courses that you take, the beautiful podcasts that you listen to. All of this needs tocome together as an ecosystem.

Creating an ecosystem of reminders and physical triggers

[23:03] And that's why I'm very systematic because I don't only give the book.
I give the book and I give a lot of downloadable bonuses.

[23:11] Things that you put on your screensaver, on your computer or on your phone.
The image that you put on your phone could be a beautiful reminder of what, you know, something or inspirational quotethat you want.
The meditation that you do daily, inspirational posters that you can print and put around you.
It's about creating an ecosystem and living that this is the only way you're going to get permanent consistent change overtime so within your environment what you're saying is to create physical reminders that might be a post-it note where youpick up your car keys or your keyboard as you sit down to work and it doesn't have anything it doesn't have to be anythingon that post-it note it could just be that physical reminder go back to your story go back to your nerve what are you tellingyourself so it's part of it kind of managing moments is it being able to be present.
So if I feel I'm going to, I'm working on something and I'm overworking because I have imposter syndrome or something.
And I see that stuck because of whatever past I have.
And in the moment I have that physical reminder, maybe one of your reminders, like an inspirational poster or somethingthat triggers me.

[24:13] I'm just trying to get nuts and bolts here. And so does that mean I have to look at my thoughts and, okay, what am Itelling myself right now?
And then I try to reflect it back to my narrative that I worked with you to establish or reading Slingshot. I've reworked it.
And that becomes a reminder, a way of triggering that new habit.
Is that what I understand you're saying?
I love your question. And that actually is exactly the kind of a use case I have with the books that I create. The book is acoherent meal, but because it's a system, it's built like a puzzle.
All together make a full picture, but also each piece has a use by itself.
So every section has stages and every stage has exercises.
You can choose to revert back to one of the sections. So let's say at this stage, you've done the book, you're doing great.
Two, three months later, life hits, you know, shit happens. What to do?
That's life. life something happens that is not good in your life and you turn around to go that has i've been stuck in thatstory for a while it happens to all of us it happens to me and i i'm so busy doing my own work running the businesswriting books publishing running workshops i need my own maintenance so i have coaches that are coaching me also andi'm when i'm working with them.

[25:25] They go but listen dude you sound like you're stuck in your own story i'm like okay good now let me go to thehealing section and in the healing section there are parts which we can run run through one by one.
And I go, okay, am I looking at the part where I need to learn to appreciate what happened to me, then I go to that sectionabout appreciating my past.
And then I could choose an exercise that works. And I could redo only that exercise, or I could redo a whole chapter, Icould redo the whole section.
So yes, it is about taking the tools and understanding these tools are just part of your, it's another arrow in your quiver.
That's all I would think of is you just have extra tools from me and from other people. And you go today, I feel like doingthis part.
It could be as simple when you're waiting for public transport, sitting by the beach in an airport and just doing one ofthose worth a lot.
Yeah. And so a lot of this is simplified, but within the simplification, there's a deep impact on how that can create this newnarrative as you project yourself into the future, as you move into the future.

Simplifying the process for deep impact and effective change.

[26:27] I love it. I love what you said about the simple. There are two things I'd love to share here. Albert Einstein says,genius is making things as simple as possible.
And that's really the hard work for me is really how can I simplify things down to a point where you can really go lasersharp and go into what you want to deal with.
Sometimes you need to do context work, but a lot of times it's really that specific screw that you need to tighten ratherthan try to re-engineer your whole life back into the challenges with an industry that might need people to fix too manythings for the industry to keep rolling or parts of the industry to keep rolling.
So try to focus on simplifying the question when you ask a simple question you can find a simple answer and resolve thatone element rather than try to restructure your whole life and the other thing is the the beauty and the downside of noveltyevery time.

[27:19] I'm on stage i'm like i put my like if you are here to learn something you put your hands up everybody puts theirhands up i'm like well i'm sorry to disappoint you i'm not going to share anything new but i'm going to share what worksare you interested in what's new or are you interested in what works because what i'm good at is showing you what worksand a lot of times you're going to go but that's simple it doesn't look.

[27:40] Novel and i'm like that's exactly what you need you need the old school simple get it done move with it rather thanthe shiny object syndrome where you go oh this looks like the new tool that's a very infomercials mentality where you justwant the new app cruncher and just getting a six-pack you just have to do the work and eat well you can buy all the toolsif you don't use them they're of no use you know i i think it's it's it's great to hear an author that's humble because youknow all the work that most of us in the contemporary society is being built is being built before us we stand on theshoulders of greater men and women who've already established this and a lot of this can come back down to some of thewhat the stoics did two thousand years ago i mean it's not exactly but of course it's it's it's evolved and such but it comesback down to those those traditional ways of thinking that have served you know people well over centuries if notmillennia and we come back and and sometimes it needs to be repackaged in a way that is contemporary that is relatablebut it it is just that it's not always the new shiny thing because you're tired that what you need is the maybe not always wedon't have to call it deep work but transformational work things that actually work that have substance that have depth.

[28:58] That have meaning, and as you said, are measurable, that are practical.

Trusting the Process: A Roadmap to Transformational Work

[29:02] There's a process along this road. And sometimes it's just as easy as saying, trust the process. Trust the process.

[29:09] Music. 

Mustafa's Journey: Losing and Finding Passion

[29:18] One of the great accolades that Mustafa has established is himself as an expert on the philosophy and the idea ofpassion.
And he's been invited multiple times to talk to hundreds of people about the idea of passion.
But then life, it happens, like it happens to all of us.
We get knocked back down on our heels, we get knocked down on our knees, and we find it hard to get up.
And that past experience can weigh on us and hold us down.
And although Mustafa is the guru of passion at some point he lost his passion and he had to rekindle it he had to find itand that required him to do the work to find a way to find the discipline the ownership and the responsibility to do that andas a result slingshot was the book that he wrote and that book was based on his his own personal experiences grounded inhis his personal stories.
So in part one of this episode, we talked about confronting and releasing the past to propel ourselves into the future.

[30:22] Mustafa shared how the book reflects his own journey, underscoring the importance of healing from our history.
The initial segment focuses on understanding and rewriting personal narratives, challenging the stories we've toldourselves about our upbringing, our environment, our experiences.
He emphasizes the need for consistent daily reminders and building an ecosystem to support this new narrative until itbecomes ingrained in our psyche leading to a profound and sustained change in our lives and that means we need to havethe dedication and the ownership and the follow-up to rewrite that narrative to find humility to check our ego and toactually look at what we are assigning what is the meaning we are ascribing to to a past situation?

[31:08] Have we at some level, unconsciously, become so enamored with that story we've told ourselves about a particularexperience that has become such a part of our identity that we're not willing to give it up?
Well, maybe we have to ask ourselves this question. Is that narrative, is that meaning, is that appraisal we've given to thatpast experience, Is it still serving us or does it now serve against us?
So now let's slip back into the stream part two of my fantastic conversation with Mustafa.

[31:40] Music. 

Understanding the concept of mindset

[31:48] You talk about mastering mindset. Can you operationally define for us from your perspective what mindset means?
Beautiful. Mindset is the way that your internal narrative functions and sets the scene for what you're going to do.
So think of it this way. Your mindset impacts your behavior.
And I'm simplifying it. The book explains it a lot more with visuals and everything, but your mindset impacts yourbehavior.
Your thoughts, your mindset impacts your thoughts and your thoughts impacts your behavior and your behavior impactsyour actions and actions impact results and guess what results impact your mindset that's the closed loop that happens i'llgive you a great example for those that have been working during the um i'll say you know before the global financialcrisis and it could apply to the pandemic think before any major issue economical meltdowns pandemic or whatever,people were hitting their targets.
They walk into the room. If you were in sales, you walk into the room going, dude, my target is a million.
I've hit the million next year. Oh, 1.3 million. No problem. I'm getting my bonuses.
Because you're operating from a mindset of achievement.

[33:11] Pandemic hit. Same person, same company, same meeting room.
Three months later, try talking to them about their target.
They're thinking, I can't even hit 10% of my target. Now, let's be realistic the year hasn't finished yet we're still at thebeginning of the pandemic and nobody knew where that was going i can guarantee you everybody was thinking oh mygod i'm never going to be able to make that money we're not working what's happening to including me what's happeningi had the publishing business that was going to hit rock bottom i was going to lose the whole business i was sitting andscratching my head oh my god what am i going to do how can i fix it like i've spent years building this business goingdown the drain now and because most of my my clients at that time were HR managers, and they all lost their jobs. So Ididn't know who to sell to.
I had to do a mindset shift.

[34:00] When I did the mindset shift into, hold on, I can achieve results.
What do I need to do to achieve those results? Then my behavior changed.
And when my behavior changed, my actions changed accordingly.
And according to those actions, my results changed and my confidence increased.
So I'm just giving case in hand example.
I went from a situation where my publishing business kind of hit rock bottom and just vanish.
And I doubled my author portfolio in the first year of the pandemic.
That till date, I've done better in that year than a lot of the years that came after that or before that.
That was simply because of a small mindset shift that I did.
So let me ask you, so we've talked about sort of narrative, we talked about mindset, we talked about thinking.
And some listeners may be thinking, okay, what's the difference between a mindset and thought?
Isn't a mindset a collection of thoughts that drive the mindset?
Mindset or is do you separate sort of operationally to define thinking or thoughts different from mindset because ifmindset drives thought which drives emotion which drives behavior which gives a positive or negative result and thenfeeds back to mindset just to challenge you what is the difference between the thought and a mindset i love your questionsi mean the very deep thought and obviously i haven't thought about that angle of the conversation before.

[35:22] Reality is mindset if i would say mindset would be the ground that you're planting the thoughts in that would be myintuitive answer to your question because if you have think of it this way and that's part of the reason why affirmations inprinciple don't work okay if you do them alone you are planting an affirmation which is a beautiful thought into a groundthat has a.

[35:47] Anybody who's in any sort of farming, even if you had a proper house plant, you know, if you put the wrong seedin the right seed in the wrong soil, it's not going to come out. There has to be a match.
Mindset is that ground where you're planting those thoughts in.
Of course, good thoughts make the ground that you're planting it better because now you have a forest of beautifulthoughts that feeds and you have a whole ecosystem.
Then the question becomes, well, what is feeding? What is your mindset feeding your thoughts or your thoughts feedingthat? that, it's a closed circle.
It doesn't matter. As long as you've got a positive upward spiral, better than a negative downward spiral.
So I would say mindset remains to be the foundation.

[36:27] Thoughts, a lot of positive thoughts can build a good mindset, but vice versa doesn't work. If you have a negativemindset, you can keep adding.
It won't do the work unless you do deep work, plus daily meditations.
Over time, you change the microbiome of your mindset, then that would work.
Yeah, because I think that's a very clear picture for people to understand, to distinguish.
Because that earth, that soil you speak to, that is based on your experience.
And if the experience you have from your past is one that you've written a negative story about, then obviously positiveaffirmations or positive thoughts are not going to grow there.
But I think what I hear you saying, Mustafa, is that if we reframe what has happened to us, For example, if something badhappened to us, but we ask ourselves, what did you learn from that experience, just to keep it simple, then obviously wepull something from that.
And that experience, by reframing it, we are changing the microorganisms in the soil. So then when we start the processof what you're saying, you know, what did you say?
Overcoming the past, overcoming the past limitations and mastering mindset, obviously by reframing the experience orreengineering the microorganism in that soil.

[37:43] Then it becomes a lot easier for flowers to come to fruition or thoughts. thoughts.
And they don't always have to be positive thoughts. They can be constructive thoughts because sometimes you're in ashitty situation.
Anyway, you cut it's a shitty situation, but you can have a constructive way of looking.
How do I, how do I come through this? I don't like the storm, but how do I come through the storm?
And even then that soil produces thoughts that produce more constructive emotions that produce more reflective behavioror constructive behavior.
And that feeds a confidence loop. Is this kind of what I've captured what you're saying when it comes back down to youranalogy of soil.

[38:20] A hundred percent. And if you allow me here, I think it's very timely to actually break down the steps.
Remember, I said every stage, which is the healing, has sub steps.
I think that's a beautiful segue for us to talk about that. I'm going to verbatim quote them from the book because, as Imentioned, they're very systematic.
So I want to give the actual wording because there's a reason for every word I'm using. So after writing your story, okay,which is what I said, change your story, change your life, that's a baseline of healing your past.
The next step after that is actually to appreciate your past.
Okay, that's a very interesting concept. That's really about honoring your struggles because they have served you.
And the image that comes to mind here is is basically wearing your scars like a badge of honor think of a lion that has alot of those scars on them and and it's beautiful image for us to remember that we're all living in in a wild jungle of lifeand whatever it is that you live in civilization business corporate world there is wildness in the way life deals with us andwe deal with life and we come out scarred but those scars if we let them define us negatively then then that is where theproblem happens.
But if we actually reframe that and go, hold on, this is actually something that I need to honor because it made me who Iam today.
When I look back at my story, I could tell you so many soft stories in the past.
And when I reframed them, they made me who I am today.
And this is where that, whatever doesn't kill me, make me stronger, comes handy.

[39:49] Once you've really appreciated that past element, you actually want to understand, what is holding you back, okay?And there's a lot of that.

[39:58] Trying to prove something. And you have nothing to prove to anybody but yourself.
That's a journey, an inner journey. When we were kids, it's normal.
You know, we go to mom and dad, mommy, daddy, look what I did.
And then mommy and daddy go, oh, good boy, good girl. Well done.
Okay. But the reality is we're not children anymore, but we repeat and maintain those patterns of seeking approval.
It goes from parents into school teachers, into university, into social circles into our boss fine they do serve us in in certainhealthy doses and over time we need we need to have you know our own agency we need to have command over our ownlife and that's really when we understand what is actually holding us back that's the next step in the process once we clearthat we go hmm now that is really clear the next step is to actually you pulled back into the past just let go it's aboutreleasing that negative emotional baggage And why I say negative emotional baggage is because we are the ones that turnthose emotions into baggage and we keep carrying through in our life.

Healing Stage: Reframing and Learning from Mistakes

[41:05] Something happened at that time was this. There is nothing to say that my father's a divorce followed by myfather's passing away, followed by my whatever it is.
None of that. I can I can say it was a beautiful experience.
Experience there's there's there is no there's value in what i got there is value in it but it's not a beautiful experience soreframing doesn't mean putting makeup on it i'm not the guy that likes that i actually like you to look i'm not a glass halffull or glass half empty i'm not a pessimist i'm not an optimist i'm a realist a realist says the glass is half empty half fulland how can i fill the empty that's my approach so i really want to look at how can i let go of of the emotional baggage of,oh, but I'm like this because I'm like this because of that.
And when you let go of that and go, okay, this was not a mistake.

[41:57] A mistake is something, you fool me once, shame on you. You fool me twice, shame on me.
So the first one was a mistake. I learned from my mistake and I move on.
Some mistakes we pay for more than others.
You make a big mistake, you lose a million. You make a big mistake, you lose a body part. I've done so, I've injuredmyself so much.
I do a lot of extreme sports.
I have six damaged discs in my spine.
So those things, when you release the emotional trauma of, oh my God, I messed up my neck skydiving. I'm a bad guy.Fine.
We do it. We deal with the emotions. Let go and go, okay, what's the lesson for me?
And then that's where the value comes to the next step, which is turning lessons into wisdom.
So once you identify the lesson, you go, that's the wisdom that I live by moving forward.
And then you go back and hold on. Let me look at the same exact story.
Oh, my father passed away. I got a divorce. I moved to a new country.
The outcome, I doubled, and this is the actual thing. I doubled I built my publishing business.
I wrote two books during the pandemic, launched my online author school.
Yeah. And I've done X, Y, Z, done so many things in that period that I could have not achieved had I not been put in thatcorner.
So that's kind of the summary of the whole, of the whole healing stage.
And, and obviously, as you said, each book goes deep into the steps with the exercise to sort of cement and.

[43:19] So I crystallize it for the reader and such as they move forward.
I think that whole idea of mindsets and the ability to release emotional baggage, a lot of people thinking, yeah, that soundslogical, but emotionally they find that very hard to do.
Just to challenge you on that bit, because it is a really brilliant process you've built that it's based on experience thatyou've tested yourself, that you've tested with your clients and such.
If person goes okay i get it i rewrite my narrative i learn the lessons but you know what i i just it's so hard for me torelease the emotions i can do it partially but i feel it's almost like as you said a rubber band it just sticks to me it just won'tlet go is there some concrete suggestions you can leave with my listeners about how do you release the emotionalemotional baggage even i've redefined it and i've reframed it and such but i it still it clings to me i love it i love yourquestion and please do keep challenging me okay because i because that really where i ask a test can i walk the talk okayso you know that the saying that i share when i'm on stage i say the longest distance a leader has to walk is between theirmouth and their feet so keep challenging me am i walking the talk and am i able to deliver on results Because I stand bywhat I say, I deliver results. Will do, brother, will do.

[44:43] And the thing is with that process, because it's a process, and that's why I said when I'm going to quote, I'm goingto quote it in sequence using the exact terminology.

[44:51] Because I'm not talking theory here, I'm giving exact specific steps that they need to be done in sequence, numberone.
Every step that I mentioned, you cannot skip to the next step, because then you're trying to release when you're not readyto release.
First, there has to be the rewriting of the story, the writing of the story.
Then the second thing that has to be you know the understanding so i'm building awareness.

[45:14] Awareness is the first step in really resolving all of those unresolved emotions.
If you just come now and do, I could get you to do an exercise, write your story, look at what's positive in it, rewrite itagain.
You know how many times I've done that myself?
It never worked. I've done fire rituals, written the letter, threw it there.
One week later, I'm elated in the workshop that I go to.
One week later, I'm back and worse, twice as depressed as I was before because I haven't gone deep enough.
I mean, think, I'll use a dentist analogy. analogy.
If a dentist realizes you need a root canal, doing a filling is not going to work.
So trying to do surface work is not going to work. You're going to have to go deep into that. And going deep into that islooking into the mirror.
So three things I talk about in anything I do, whether it's coaching, workshops, my systems do not work for everybody.

[46:03] They do not work for people that don't have three things.
Number one, courage and ownership. That is about looking in the mirror and being honest with yourself and brutallyhonest okay so any question i ask if you're actually going through the process and giving surface level answers you'regoing to get surface level results next thing is humility which is the ability to be willing to say i need help and i'm willingto follow through the process even if i'm not coaching one-to-one if you follow the process that requires humility our egocomes in the way of our healing because that is going to require us to acknowledge that we are the ones that made thosedecisions for me once shame on on you you fool me twice shame on me if we've done the same thing over so in thequestion about the story i ask for example if your life was a movie what genre would it be and what's the title of thatmovie and then you start analyzing what are the reoccurring themes now let's just do some normal analysis over here ifanybody gives you something a reoccurring problem okay in in a in a process in a business what do you look for toresolve it you look for the repeated pattern what is common and guess what is the number one common thing in anybody'sstory.

[47:19] Is us so the number one two if that requires humility if you're going to be able to look in the mirror and go youknow what i'm actually that's on me courage i'll own it brutally honest with myself humility i do need help and i'm willingand number three discipline they got got to follow the process, they got to do the work, they got to do the meditations,they got to do the exercises.
So if you can't release it, one of the exercises in the book, what's in it for you?

[47:44] How does it serve you? How did it, how did it serve me? I'll take an example.
How did it serve me to, to have that sob story of, oh my God, I went through a divorce and I went through my fatherpassing away and I went through all of that.
I realized I was honestly burned out.
I've had a rough few years and I needed an excuse for a break.
A very tough dude. I mean, my, you know, my nickname at the early stage of my career was Mr. Passion.
I'm the guy who became one of the world's top experts on the topic of passion.
160 plus interviews with some some of the world's top experts on one topic called passion. How can I not demonstratepassion?
I needed some sort of an excuse to go back and hide for a little bit and go, listen, dude, I need self-care.
And I couldn't do it because my ego couldn't handle like, I'm not, what do you mean? I'm not Superman. I'm Mr. Passion.Everybody uses me as an example of passion.
So then how it served me to release the emotion first is, how is it serving me to stay stuck where I am now?
I needed a break. Fine. fine, now that I know I need a break, what, that's ulterior motive, yeah?
Then how can I get that without needing to hold on to the story?
So I let go of the story and go, you know what?
I'm gonna officially take off for another month or two.
I'm not working. Everybody knows I'm not working. I'm not taking on coaching clients. I'm not producing any newcontent.
Publishing business fairly runs by itself. I'm of the grid, guys.
Sorry, tough luck if I lose a couple of deals. I owe it to myself.

Untangling Emotions and Breaking Down Stories

[49:07] Only then I can go back and release that emotion. But you can't release an emotion if you have not untangled thestory behind it and break it down.
I learned a beautiful terminology in consulting. They call it decouple.
Because sometimes you're trying to release something, but there's two elements.
One you can release, one you cannot release. release another example of an exercise in the book is if somebody has doneus harm everybody had had somebody who's hurt them okay so let's play a little simulation game here if there's somebodythat has done you bad has done you harm in whichever way intentional or not and you felt that you are still unable to letgo of that or release them do you have someone that comes to mind you don't have to share the story i'm sure everybodyhas one of those stories where you feel Yes, sure. Sure. Yeah. Yeah. Okay.
Let me ask you, don't you think that one of the main reasons you're unable to let go of that is because you feel if you letgo of that, then you have let go of that person. And that is not fair.

[50:08] If that person did you bad, did you wrong, whatever, in whichever way, if you actually let go of that, you feelyou're letting them go. That is one reason.
And all of us innate as children want to be fair.
We want to see a fair world, which is a big struggle to looking around us and still trying to maintain a fair world. So deepinside us, we're trying to maintain a fair world.
But then somebody does us wrong and we let go of that.
Then we've said it's okay. And that will make the world a very bad place if it's okay for people to do bad by others.

[50:39] However, if you make a realization and go, hold on, by me letting go, I'm releasing myself from the emotionalbaggage that I'm carrying, but by no means do I let them off the hook for that.
And this is where I say to forgive and forget is stupid.
And sorry if I insult anyone with this word, but to forgive and forget is stupid. stupid.
It's a very sexy term to say on social media, forgive and forget.
It sounds very cool to say it in a workshop.
I'm sorry, dude. Anybody with two ounces of IQ will never forget.
Because if you forget, guess what happens?
You repeat the same mistake again. And then we start beating ourselves up and going, oh, how come this keeps happeningto me?
Poor me. No, not poor you. It's on you.
You got to own that. When you own it, then you go, okay, now I've learned my lesson. I will forgive, but I will not forgetbecause I don't want to be in a place where I have to forgive such a bad doing again.
The other second reason why people don't let go of emotional baggage, why they can't let go of the emotion is becausethey have invested a lot into that story.

[51:46] If I've built my whole life around the story, if I've built my whole life of I am who I am today because I lost all mymoney and my father died and this and X, Y, Z, and I became this person, I became the inspirational speaker I am becauseI lost everything and I had to bounce back.
And that's the only way I get on stage and that's the only story I tell on stage.

The Power of Personal Stories and Investments in Them

[52:07] It's illogical for anybody to let go of a story that is the baseline of someone's success because that's the cornerstoneof it.
And when we relook at that investment that we made, and again, we decouple and we say, because that was somehow mystory, you know, early on first book, the only story I had was talking about passion and talking about how I losteverything.
And I left Dubai and bought a one way ticket to India.
And over time, that was my only thing.
Then over time, that became only one chapter in my book.
But that became one book out of three books. So you can imagine that the investment that I have made in that became sosmall and irrelevant that even now, even in this interview, I have not brought anything about my history and story of howI got into this.
That was the only thing I would talk about in an interview.
Today, I don't. So really, if people are unable to release the emotions, it's one of the two.
They're either thinking, but if I release that, I will release the person, and or if I am invested into that, what does it meanwhen I let go of that whole story?
What would I lose of who I am? And that's a big identity crisis.

[53:10] I think those are two major salient points, because from my experience, to piggyback on what you've just said, thismay sound counterintuitive to a lot of people, but the brain hangs on to things that we find pleasure in.
It could be a twisted form of pleasure. Now, this is not for everybody, but I mean, a lot of the times we hang on to certainemotions because, as you said, it's our narrative. It becomes part of our identity.
We are so locked into the identity that if we give that up, then our brain's thinking we're giving up some sort of pleasurebecause as you know, Mustafa, I mean, you know, all human, the human operating system is based on two movements,moving forward or moving back, attracted or repelled.

[53:51] And a lot of us don't want to give up that. And that might be just very black and white terms here, this sense ofvictim, the sense of attention I get from telling this story, right?
But if I give that up, then I lose that attention.
So the principle, as twisted as it may be, the reason we hang on to anything from my experience is because at some level,it feeds us negatively or positively, but there is some sort of pleasure principle there.
Now, as I said, it's maybe counterintuitive. And once we can come to accept that, how does this actually feed me, right?
Why am I clinging in on to this narrative as you said or this identity once we can have that as you you so, astutely saidhave that self-awareness and that kind of that's part of that releasing as you're talking about the narrative right so i justwanted to breach that because i think that's a very important point because a lot of people get stuck in the mire right thereis like how do i let go of the emotions well reframe reappraise do the deep work as you said right.

[54:58] I'm very appreciative of your time and I'm very respectful of your time, Mustafa.

How to Reach Mustafa's Book and Message

[55:03] I was wondering, how can people reach out and get your book? Where is it available?
The book is available on all major online stores, Amazon, Barnes and Nobles, Kindle.
Soon enough, Audible is not out yet. I'm still to record it.
So that's going to come out soon. But all major online bookstores.

[55:23] And also, as I said, I put my money where my mouth is.
I've been blessed with a lot of amazing mentors throughout my history of being speaker coach.
And until date, it's the generosity of those people that made me who I am today.
Day and I also want to stand by the fact that yes we all need to make a living but priority number one is serving because Ibelieve serving is the new selling so my priority is of course there's a business and I need to make a living as the nextperson and my product is providing value to people's life but I also want to lead with generosity and with genuine careand also support you in spreading the beautiful message of helping people so if people go to my website forward slash slingshot so that's the name of the book forward slash slingshot they will goto a landing page and usually they would have to buy the book to download a lot of the tools that i mentioned i am givingthem the book away for free a copy an e-copy of the book plus both my previous books uh online meditation um theinspirational posters posters, anything that are beneficial to the people.
And they just have to use the code Jason Lim.
So as per the spelling of your show, and if they put that code there instead of the book code, because usually they have tobuy and there's a code inside the book, they will get all of those bonuses for free.

[56:49] Well, that's very, very generous of you, Mustafa. I will be sure to include that link in the show notes.

[56:56] As we come to the finishing line of this episode, unfortunately, Unfortunately, maybe there'll be a part two.
Is there any last ideas or suggestions or recommendations or wisdom you'd like to impart to my listeners, to our listeners?

[57:11] Thank you very much. I mean, it's been an amazing interview.
And yeah, it's been an hour already.
I think it flew by and we barely scratched the surface. We could easily get on more with that. And yes, could be a secondone.
But I'd say the biggest thing to understand is you are not broken.
Broken okay it's it's sometimes we all have been oversold to and over promised and really be critical even of me oranybody that's trying to sell you something and ask valid questions do not act out of desperation remember the only onethat makes money in a gold rush is a shovel company so make sure what you're buying is real gold not just a shovel that'spromising you to dig out out some gold in your life.
And if I leave you with one inspiring quote that I learned from interviewing 160 plus people talking about one topic,which is passion, is that the fact that passionate people do not wait for life to happen to them, they happen to life.
So I know just the fact that you're listening to Jason's show and amazing content that he brings, you are somebody who'smastering your destiny, mastering your mindset, have the self-belief that you can do it, follow on with the right qualitywork, courage, humility, and discipline, own up to it, do the work, and you will get the results.
It's not a question of if, it's a question of when. So keep up the great work.

[58:37] Outstanding. Outstanding. I really like that. Mustafa, thank you very much for the generosity of your time, for theextras that my listeners can download at your website.
I learned a lot today and that is always a definite sign that we've had a great, great conversation. So thank you very much,Mustafa.
Thank you for the amazing interview and for challenging me and putting me on the spot. I like that. Thank you verymuch. Always, always. Have a great day.

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Summary and Rewind: Insights on Personal Development Resilience

[59:14] Going to try my best to sort of summarize this whole conversation.
But this is the type of conversation that many of you will probably want to rewind and replay at certain parts, those partsthat will serve you the best.
You know, when we look at the practical insights on personal development resilience, well, the book Slingshot kind oftouches all of those points.
You know, the book reminds us that understanding our past and reframing our our experience is crucial for growth.
It encourages a mindset shift. You know, it allows us to see challenges as opportunities for improvement, to think aboutareas in your own life where changing your perspective could lead to a positive and dramatic change in some cases.
Now, the book, well, it highlights the importance of self-awareness, humility, and disciplined effort and personaldevelopment.
Now, I want you as listeners to consider how these principles can be applied in your daily life to build resilience andachieve your goals, to reflect on the narratives you hold and how altering them could unlock new paths to success andfulfillment.
Or just simply getting past those roadblocks from our past that hold us back, that prevents us from moving forward.
And Mustafa, he had the courage and the vulnerability to share his own story.
And that is no easy ride for anyone to experience what he experienced.

[1:00:40] And Mustafa has been so very generous. You can pick up a lot of these freebies, the ebooks and meditations, hisother books, following the link that I will provide in the show notes.
Mustafa, personal thank you from me to you. I am very grateful and privileged to have spent an hour with you, to talkshop, to talk ideas that really resonate with me. And I learned a lot, as I've said.
So thank you very much for your generosity and sharing your wisdom and experience.
This will be a podcast. This episode is something I'll be listening to again and again. So thank you very much.
Well, folks, Slingshot is just about one of three books that Mustafa has written.
And of Of course, I will leave those links to those books in the show notes, as well as all his social media contactinformation and his website.
Well, folks, we are crossing the finishing line of yet another episode.
I appreciate your time. I appreciate you allowing me to be part of your work.

[1:01:41] Music. 

Introducing "It's an Inside Job" podcast with Jason Lim
Introduction to Mustafa Humwi and his book, Slingshot
Jason: Question about the term "Slingshot" for the book
Mustafa: Reflection on personal challenges and the inspiration for the book
Cathartic Process and Bringing Thoughts to Fruition
Unique Approach: Measurable Results and Systematic Methodology
Overcoming Past Limitations and Mastery of Mindset
Compartmentalizing and focusing on relevant parts of the past
Creating an ecosystem of reminders and physical triggers
Simplifying the process for deep impact and effective change.
Trusting the Process: A Roadmap to Transformational Work
Mustafa's Journey: Losing and Finding Passion
Understanding the concept of mindset
Healing Stage: Reframing and Learning from Mistakes
Untangling Emotions and Breaking Down Stories
The Power of Personal Stories and Investments in Them
How to Reach Mustafa's Book and Message
Summary and Rewind: Insights on Personal Development Resilience